Mother’s Day often brings images of breakfast in bed, flowers, and family gatherings. But for many families, especially those raising sensory-sensitive children, the day may look a little different.
Through the lens of sensory integration, much of what mothers do every day involves noticing and responding to their child’s sensory needs. They become skilled observers of the small details that affect regulation: the noise level in a room, the feel of clothing, the need for movement, or the importance of quiet space.
These adjustments might seem small, but they make a big difference. Offering a movement break, dimming lights, planning calmer outings, or creating predictable routines can help a child feel more comfortable in their body and environment.
Sensory integration reminds us that regulation also develops through relationships. When children feel overwhelmed, a mother’s calm presence – through a hug, a walk, or simply sitting together – can help their nervous system settle.
It’s also important to remember that mothers have sensory needs too. Parenting can be demanding on the nervous system, and each stage has different challenges.
The transition to motherhood is a period of many changes, which is a key focus in perinatal Occupational Therapy. During pregnancy and the early months after birth, mothers are adapting not only to caring for a new baby, but also to changes in their routines, identity, sleep, energy levels, and sensory experiences. Occupational therapists working in the perinatal period support mothers in finding rhythms that feel manageable and meaningful, helping them care for their babies while also caring for themselves.
Sensory Ladders® can be a valuable tool for mums to self-regulate and support them in caring for others and handling daily matters in a healthier way.
Here it is Helen Brennan’s work, a perinatal occupational therapist, who has written a fantastic Self-regulation workbook where you can also find Sensory Ladders® tool:
This Mother’s Day, it may be worth recognising not only the visible acts of care, but also the thoughtful sensory support mothers provide every day, helping children feel safe, regulated, and ready to engage with the world around them. Moreover, their own need for self-regulation to experience well-being and maintain mental health, to look after others.